Making friends/ Finding mates

catherineh · 09-28-2002, 01:47 PM

I was wondering how all the anxious, depressed people out there make friends or find mates. If we are mostly overweight, moody, without desire, how do you get off the couch and meet people? Do you tell your friends about your problems or hide it. Me, I hide them, but I can only do it with people I already know, I have no ability to meet new people although I really wish I could.

Paxil Junkie · 09-28-2002, 01:48 PM

i myself have never had any luck finding a mate, or friends for that amtter, i guess social phobic shy people with no self esteem are the best to be used and take abuse... but thats just my experience

09-28-2002, 05:38 PM

[snip paragraphs of my pouring my heart out, only to be totally ignored by all]

Never mind. Not sure why I even bothered. Just keep on complaining away.

JulieG · 09-28-2002, 06:38 PM

I feel painfully awkward around people I don't know and feeling even less confident because of my weight gain. I don't know the answer.

Ariella · 09-30-2002, 10:20 PM

Catherineh! So good to hear from you again.

I have always chosen to tell anyone my truth. I mean, I would never seek to invalidate the hard work I've already gone through or may continue to do so by denying or hiding it. I may have lost an employment opportunity because of my tendency to be candid, but if the truth frightens people, their fear of what they may not understand is the problem and not me.

But, you know how I am hehe.

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10-14-2002, 10:42 AM

It's weird, you know. Sometimes when I'm absolutely rock bottom I make the most friends. I often just go right beyond what I would call sanity and just go clubbing by myself. Get horrendously drunk and talk to anyone and everyone. When I don't care less about myself I'm not worried about shattering a fragile ego with rejection because my ego goes completely down the drain. When I'm so low I'm suicidal I feel like I just have nothing to lose. Besides, there's nothing like getting rid of creeps giving you unwanted attention by telling them you're under psychiatric care! I just wish I could have that kind of crazy couldn't-care-less attitude and confidence when I'm having a good day.

10-14-2002, 08:35 PM

i forgot what being loved feels like years ago. my anxiety/panic makes me so undesirable to any woman i find appealing.
anxiety ran away the one true love of my life. and now i suppose the weight and unemployment and hermitness keeps them away.

after the meds kicked in so long ago not even miss hand wants anything to do with me. sorry about that.

09-28-2002, 01:47 PM	#1
catherineh Join Date: May 2002 Location: oregon Posts: 73	Making friends/ Finding mates I was wondering how all the anxious, depressed people out there make friends or find mates. If we are mostly overweight, moody, without desire, how do you get off the couch and meet people? Do you tell your friends about your problems or hide it. Me, I hide them, but I can only do it with people I already know, I have no ability to meet new people although I really wish I could.

09-28-2002, 01:48 PM	#2
Paxil Junkie Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: New York Posts: 315	i myself have never had any luck finding a mate, or friends for that amtter, i guess social phobic shy people with no self esteem are the best to be used and take abuse... but thats just my experience __________________ Some of my favorite quotes "April 20th, National Save the Trees day." "Its 4:19...got a minute?" "Life sucks then you die, so spend your time getting high." "Time is never wasted when your wasted all the time."

09-30-2002, 10:20 PM	#5
Ariella Join Date: Apr 2002 Posts: 7,100	hi! Catherineh! So good to hear from you again. I have always chosen to tell anyone my truth. I mean, I would never seek to invalidate the hard work I've already gone through or may continue to do so by denying or hiding it. I may have lost an employment opportunity because of my tendency to be candid, but if the truth frightens people, their fear of what they may not understand is the problem and not me. But, you know how I am hehe. One cool NEW way (free plug cough cough) of making new friends is by spending time here and at the new Live Chat system we now have online: Chat Live Now! __________________ Panic attacks started Dec/1996 Zoloft summer 1998 (quit CT after a few days - bad reaction) 10mg Paxil fall 1998 / 20mg Paxil winter 1999 10mg September 2000 / 5mg October 2000 / FREE November 2000 Healed by Anxiety eBook

10-14-2002, 10:42 AM	#6
Lizzy Posts: n/a	Making friends It's weird, you know. Sometimes when I'm absolutely rock bottom I make the most friends. I often just go right beyond what I would call sanity and just go clubbing by myself. Get horrendously drunk and talk to anyone and everyone. When I don't care less about myself I'm not worried about shattering a fragile ego with rejection because my ego goes completely down the drain. When I'm so low I'm suicidal I feel like I just have nothing to lose. Besides, there's nothing like getting rid of creeps giving you unwanted attention by telling them you're under psychiatric care! I just wish I could have that kind of crazy couldn't-care-less attitude and confidence when I'm having a good day.

10-14-2002, 08:35 PM	#7
justdanny Posts: n/a	women ? what are women ? i forgot what being loved feels like years ago. my anxiety/panic makes me so undesirable to any woman i find appealing. anxiety ran away the one true love of my life. and now i suppose the weight and unemployment and hermitness keeps them away. after the meds kicked in so long ago not even miss hand wants anything to do with me. sorry about that.

09-28-2002, 05:38 PM	#3
PunchyMi Posts: n/a	[snip paragraphs of my pouring my heart out, only to be totally ignored by all] Never mind. Not sure why I even bothered. Just keep on complaining away.

09-28-2002, 06:38 PM	#4
JulieG Join Date: May 2002 Location: Ohio, USA Posts: 589	I feel painfully awkward around people I don't know and feeling even less confident because of my weight gain. I don't know the answer.

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