I've just been punched

twist_boy · 10-28-2006, 04:49 PM

hey guys! sorry for not posting since a month ago... you may remember i left paxil that month ago, it never worked

hehe, anyways, u remember that guy who was the cause of all my problems, the reason i became socio-phobic and all, i saw him in a huge party, we both were really drunk, I tried to talk to him, asked him why he hates me so much, why?? he just said it was all my fault because I was stupid and never defended myself (thats true), besides the school is almost to run him away because of me, so in the party i said everything its ok now, everything is in the past!! i swear, i can tell ms donna we're friends again so they wont run you away, I loved you as a friend bla bla, he said he needed to punch me, i was really drunk, i said OK, we went to the toilets, I was talking and talking and just remember that he kindda punch me in my mouth, i fell down, and started to cry, when he saw me crying he said he was sorry, and repented, he hugged me, i hugged him, crying, and he left.... Then I realized about what happened and started to cry and say "I let em punch mee

I just didnt do anything" , everyone saw me, with my mouth full of blood, a horrible scene, supposly I was movin' on but this event... I faced my biggest fear ever: taylor.. And the school director said that if I come school harmed they'll inmediatly run him away... thats what i dont want, he can do anything..
my mouth aches

Delynbetter · 10-28-2006, 04:55 PM

So your choices are to not tell the school that he was the one who punched you in the mouth or to let the kid get what would be coming to him if he punched anyone else. (IMO)

LCrawford67 · 10-28-2006, 08:45 PM

Wow....Not even sure what to say here. If you're comfortable with what happened and it can help you move on from your social anxiety, so be it. I certainly wouldn't get drunk at anymore parties with him.

Homerbcool · 10-29-2006, 07:52 AM

The courage it took to face tis fear, is well beyond admirable..and you took a punhc to end the issue, and from what it sounds like it ended the issue between you and this person...if possible beore school, try and at least talk to this guy again, make sure he is legitamatley sorry and nideed the tension between you and him are over...then and only then go to the school and tell them you hurt your mouth falling down onto a curb or cemeent block..

I had a similr event with a co worker who was not happy with my drunken war of words with our boss..long story but he punched me in my mouth, blood, the whole works and he immediately did the same thing..he begged my forgiveness, he was sorry, he had issues etcc...I forgave and all was better..much more to the story but you get my meaning

Delynbetter · 10-29-2006, 08:40 AM

Guichos, you have to keep yourself safe. You deserve better than this. Everyone does. You are worth more than to be the punching bag of some bully. If he is truly sorry and this has changed him, great. But if you have just given him some extra time to abuse others, then you have to do what is necessary for your safety and for the safety of the others that he has, is or is going to abuse in the future. I can guarantee you that you are not the only one he is doing this to. They don't prey on only one person.

How is your mouth? Teeth intact? What have your parents had to say about the situation?

angels · 10-29-2006, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Delynbetter

Guichos, you have to keep yourself safe. You deserve better than this. Everyone does. You are worth more than to be the punching bag of some bully. If he is truly sorry and this has changed him, great. But if you have just given him some extra time to abuse others, then you have to do what is necessary for your safety and for the safety of the others that he has, is or is going to abuse in the future. I can guarantee you that you are not the only one he is doing this to. They don't prey on only one person.

How is your mouth? Teeth intact? What have your parents had to say about the situation?

I agree with this and also with Homer since you did what you did and it's in the past. But now comes the time to take a stand. No one has a right to do this whether you give them permission or not. I do understand why you did it, but now's the time to stand up for your rights. You know, bully's succeed by fear and they are the most fearful of all. I realize you don't quite understand this right now, but 10 years from now, you will be an incredible and successful guy and this guy will be nowhere. There is as much courage in making the school do what they are supposed to do as "fighting" with this guy. This is the way to stand up for yourself. Just do what you can to get through this time of your life being true to yourself. Believe me, it gets better. On those TV shows where adults confront bullys from their past, the thing they regret most is they lost faith in themselves and believed the bully's view of them.

twist_boy · 11-03-2006, 02:42 PM

Thanks for answering guys!! you really help, Im so sorry for answering a week later, a really busy week with all those troubles... anyways he called me the next day and told me he really thought about what I told him that night, I was like "my god!, what did I told him?" He said he was really sorry for ruining my whole life, I felt really good, I told him everything I always wanted to tell him, everything, with no fears, looking at him, hugging him.... but drunk, do I have to be drunk to finally talk to him?? anyways, on monday he greeted me and all, but I've realized that he do it because he dont wanna be expulsed, actually he told me on wednesday "we talk to ms. donna when your scar fades away"!

my god, besides all the school already knows the gossip, everyone is scolding at me like "why didnt u defend yourself??" anyways u can see everything its over now... My mouth is ok now, with a wart-like scar, a broken bracket, actually the braket made my scar bigger and painful, im trying not to touch it, dont want this scar to become a timelife scar

, my mom and dad became really mad, my sister too, all my family is planning an attack, I DONT WANT IT! my sister has lots of friends, actually if I would told her at the party (she was there)..... the guy would be dead... but I dont anybody to touch him, it would get worse....

BriOnH · 11-03-2006, 04:25 PM

I've been in many, many fights. Have a black belt in Shoa-lin kempo and participated in many MMA fights. Know what I have come to realize? Jesus never got into a fight. The closest he got, he did the same thing you did. Amen.

10-28-2006, 04:49 PM	#1
twist_boy Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 37	I've just been punched hey guys! sorry for not posting since a month ago... you may remember i left paxil that month ago, it never worked hehe, anyways, u remember that guy who was the cause of all my problems, the reason i became socio-phobic and all, i saw him in a huge party, we both were really drunk, I tried to talk to him, asked him why he hates me so much, why?? he just said it was all my fault because I was stupid and never defended myself (thats true), besides the school is almost to run him away because of me, so in the party i said everything its ok now, everything is in the past!! i swear, i can tell ms donna we're friends again so they wont run you away, I loved you as a friend bla bla, he said he needed to punch me, i was really drunk, i said OK, we went to the toilets, I was talking and talking and just remember that he kindda punch me in my mouth, i fell down, and started to cry, when he saw me crying he said he was sorry, and repented, he hugged me, i hugged him, crying, and he left.... Then I realized about what happened and started to cry and say "I let em punch mee I just didnt do anything" , everyone saw me, with my mouth full of blood, a horrible scene, supposly I was movin' on but this event... I faced my biggest fear ever: taylor.. And the school director said that if I come school harmed they'll inmediatly run him away... thats what i dont want, he can do anything.. my mouth aches

10-28-2006, 04:55 PM	#2
Delynbetter Join Date: May 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 10,518	Re: I've just been punched So your choices are to not tell the school that he was the one who punched you in the mouth or to let the kid get what would be coming to him if he punched anyone else. (IMO) __________________ Diagnosed anxiety/panic disorder without agoraphobia 1989. Talk/music therapy. Major anxiety and mild depression in 2004 from situational stressors. Began Paxil CR 25mg, 10/04. Quit cold-turkey 5/5/05 as demanded by doctor. Found paxilprogress 5/17/05. Began Paxil CR 12.5mg 5/17/05. Weaned 4 1/2 months. During taper - anx/panic/depression, manic episodes, agoraphobia, suicidal ideation, many other physical symptoms. Paxil-free 10/2/05.

10-28-2006, 08:45 PM	#3
LCrawford67 Moderator "Everybody poops" Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Ohio Posts: 26,493	Re: I've just been punched Wow....Not even sure what to say here. If you're comfortable with what happened and it can help you move on from your social anxiety, so be it. I certainly wouldn't get drunk at anymore parties with him. __________________ aka LC aka Laurie C. Paxil, 20 mg since 1997, for IBS Two unsuccessful attempts to quit. Started tapering 11/27/06 PAXIL FREE 12/29/07 If the only prayer you said in your whole life was, "thank you," that would suffice. ~Meister Eckhart Thanksgiving, man. Not a good day to be my pants. ~Kevin James

10-29-2006, 07:52 AM	#4
Homerbcool "colors outside the lines" Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 15,949	Re: I've just been punched The courage it took to face tis fear, is well beyond admirable..and you took a punhc to end the issue, and from what it sounds like it ended the issue between you and this person...if possible beore school, try and at least talk to this guy again, make sure he is legitamatley sorry and nideed the tension between you and him are over...then and only then go to the school and tell them you hurt your mouth falling down onto a curb or cemeent block.. I had a similr event with a co worker who was not happy with my drunken war of words with our boss..long story but he punched me in my mouth, blood, the whole works and he immediately did the same thing..he begged my forgiveness, he was sorry, he had issues etcc...I forgave and all was better..much more to the story but you get my meaning __________________ That's one of the curses of anxiety--we make possibilities into certainties.....Tim

10-29-2006, 08:40 AM	#5
Delynbetter Join Date: May 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 10,518	Re: I've just been punched Guichos, you have to keep yourself safe. You deserve better than this. Everyone does. You are worth more than to be the punching bag of some bully. If he is truly sorry and this has changed him, great. But if you have just given him some extra time to abuse others, then you have to do what is necessary for your safety and for the safety of the others that he has, is or is going to abuse in the future. I can guarantee you that you are not the only one he is doing this to. They don't prey on only one person. How is your mouth? Teeth intact? What have your parents had to say about the situation? __________________ Diagnosed anxiety/panic disorder without agoraphobia 1989. Talk/music therapy. Major anxiety and mild depression in 2004 from situational stressors. Began Paxil CR 25mg, 10/04. Quit cold-turkey 5/5/05 as demanded by doctor. Found paxilprogress 5/17/05. Began Paxil CR 12.5mg 5/17/05. Weaned 4 1/2 months. During taper - anx/panic/depression, manic episodes, agoraphobia, suicidal ideation, many other physical symptoms. Paxil-free 10/2/05.

11-03-2006, 02:42 PM	#7
twist_boy Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 37	Re: I've just been punched Thanks for answering guys!! you really help, Im so sorry for answering a week later, a really busy week with all those troubles... anyways he called me the next day and told me he really thought about what I told him that night, I was like "my god!, what did I told him?" He said he was really sorry for ruining my whole life, I felt really good, I told him everything I always wanted to tell him, everything, with no fears, looking at him, hugging him.... but drunk, do I have to be drunk to finally talk to him?? anyways, on monday he greeted me and all, but I've realized that he do it because he dont wanna be expulsed, actually he told me on wednesday "we talk to ms. donna when your scar fades away"! my god, besides all the school already knows the gossip, everyone is scolding at me like "why didnt u defend yourself??" anyways u can see everything its over now... My mouth is ok now, with a wart-like scar, a broken bracket, actually the braket made my scar bigger and painful, im trying not to touch it, dont want this scar to become a timelife scar , my mom and dad became really mad, my sister too, all my family is planning an attack, I DONT WANT IT! my sister has lots of friends, actually if I would told her at the party (she was there)..... the guy would be dead... but I dont anybody to touch him, it would get worse....

11-03-2006, 04:25 PM	#8
BriOnH Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 546	Re: I've just been punched I've been in many, many fights. Have a black belt in Shoa-lin kempo and participated in many MMA fights. Know what I have come to realize? Jesus never got into a fight. The closest he got, he did the same thing you did. Amen. __________________ -Brian 1998 - put on paxil for panic disorder. 01/01/04 - Quit cold turkey 15mg - First Attempt. 05/18/04 - Went back on to 15 mg - I think I could have hung in there if I was aware of this forum. 07/28/2005 - Quit Paxil 15 mg - Second Attempt 11/06/2005 -- On 10 mg to stabilize and will try again 11/30/2005 -- Back to 15mg again. 12/18/05 -- 7.5 mg 12/31/05 -- 0 1/05/06 -- back on 15 mg 10/25/06 -- 1mg xanax down from 3 mg from 5 month taper. www.diabuddies.com Brian Hartigan

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