I'm so tired...

momof3kids · 01-20-2007, 06:20 PM

I need to know why I'm so tired. I'm not getting anything done in my house...I have 3 small kids that need me to have energy to do things with them and I'm not doing anything. I'm just surviving right now and I can't do that...

Quick background. I took prozac weekly for a few weeks back in October '03 and had a terrible reaction to it. It was supposed to just "get me over the hump" since I was tired and blue after having my 3rd child. It caused horrifying panic attacks, nightmares, anxiety, etc and I was advised to stop it cold turkey. The 6 months or so following that was a complete rollercoaster of anxiety, panic, etc. Then, it all eased off and I had a "burp" of anxiety every month or so until the only remaining "symptom" of withdrawal was a continued intolerance of medications (like cold meds and antibiotics). I went for almost 2 years with no problems and thought this was all behind me. I had the usual "mom of young kids" trying times, tired days, etc. but it was all good. I even managed to lose a lot of weight and I was feeling great and happy with myself for the first time in a long time. 2006 presented us with a lot of challenges, financial, medical (my husband was ill and my youngest needed surgery), and the stress was weighing on me. Then back at the beginning of November 2006, I had a day of terrible panic attacks all day. This episode seemed to open a pandora's box for me and now I'm dealing with tons of anxiety, occasional panic attacks again.

I found this group, thank God, and I've already learned a lot. You can see what supplements I'm on in my signature. I've been taking them since early-mid December.

So, I've been having some better days (today was NOT one of them...woke up with panic and have been anxious all day) and feeling more patient with my kids, generally more serene, etc. BUT, I'm so TIRED! I feel like a zombie all the time. I honestly wonder how this is any better than being on benzos sometimes (except for the obvious reasons like addiction). Can someone help me understand why I feel this way? I'm feeling at the end of my rope with all of this. I just can't function like this. Is it the constant anxiety that's just wearing me down inside, is it the supplements, is it stress?

Thanks for listening...I'm just feeling so sad today that I'm still dealing with all of this and feeling like a bad mother/wife/daughter/etc. Where did I go?

rdjanis · 01-20-2007, 07:39 PM

Your post pretty much answers your question:

Quote:

I have 3 small kids
2006 presented us with a lot of challenges, financial, medical (my husband was ill and my youngest needed surgery), and the stress was weighing on me

After much stress it gets to people, all of us individuals in how much we can take and how it will affect us. Breath, try as hard as you can to get some time to yourself, it is normal under great stress for one to feel tired. Add three young kids on top of that... you bet, you must be tired!!

scotty · 01-20-2007, 08:12 PM

Exactly!!! You have every right to be tired..but this too shall pass!!!

Katesmom · 01-20-2007, 10:42 PM

I couldn't agree with Rita more! You have been living on sheer will and adrenaline for months, now you are just flat worn out from it. You have to understand that--mommy or not, wife or not--you deserve time for yourself. Every person needs it. That may mean that the list of chores doesn't get done today or even this week, but, I promise, your family WILL survive.

I was basically on bedrest for my ENTIRE pregnancy. Granted, I didn't have any children yet (and this is why I won't be having any more), but my husband worked full time and did all the errands and did what little housework got down. The house basically just was let go. It was hard to watch, but I had to learn to let it go. After I had Kate, I felt like you do now, but because I was on paxil. I was very fatigued and had no motivation to do anything. I was a lump. We all survived it.

Don't let yourself be so overwhelmed at the moment. It's okay to tread water sometimes. Laurie's right: this too SHALL pass.

In the meantime, seriously consider a) taking some quiet time for yourself everyday. The PERFECT way to do this would be to work out right after hubby gets home from work or get up thirty minutes early. The exercise will also do your panic a WORLD of good. b) Read some books about anxiety. c) Look seriously into talk therapy. d) Don't be afraid to treat yourself sometimes, whether to a hershey bar or a pedicure or a silly book from the library. Your children learn how to treat others by how you not only treat them, but by how you treat yourself!

mapleleafgirl25 · 01-21-2007, 03:47 PM

i was going to say..i didnt know what being tired was until i had London..lol..now i have her plus my own business..moms are always tired...try to take a break for yourself..like kim has suggested...sometimes..i even say "i am going to the bathroom" and i just spend time in there..plucking my eyebrows..ect..that gives me the 15min and then i feel better..!!!

michele

01-20-2007, 06:20 PM	#1
momof3kids Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 60	I'm so tired... I need to know why I'm so tired. I'm not getting anything done in my house...I have 3 small kids that need me to have energy to do things with them and I'm not doing anything. I'm just surviving right now and I can't do that... Quick background. I took prozac weekly for a few weeks back in October '03 and had a terrible reaction to it. It was supposed to just "get me over the hump" since I was tired and blue after having my 3rd child. It caused horrifying panic attacks, nightmares, anxiety, etc and I was advised to stop it cold turkey. The 6 months or so following that was a complete rollercoaster of anxiety, panic, etc. Then, it all eased off and I had a "burp" of anxiety every month or so until the only remaining "symptom" of withdrawal was a continued intolerance of medications (like cold meds and antibiotics). I went for almost 2 years with no problems and thought this was all behind me. I had the usual "mom of young kids" trying times, tired days, etc. but it was all good. I even managed to lose a lot of weight and I was feeling great and happy with myself for the first time in a long time. 2006 presented us with a lot of challenges, financial, medical (my husband was ill and my youngest needed surgery), and the stress was weighing on me. Then back at the beginning of November 2006, I had a day of terrible panic attacks all day. This episode seemed to open a pandora's box for me and now I'm dealing with tons of anxiety, occasional panic attacks again. I found this group, thank God, and I've already learned a lot. You can see what supplements I'm on in my signature. I've been taking them since early-mid December. So, I've been having some better days (today was NOT one of them...woke up with panic and have been anxious all day) and feeling more patient with my kids, generally more serene, etc. BUT, I'm so TIRED! I feel like a zombie all the time. I honestly wonder how this is any better than being on benzos sometimes (except for the obvious reasons like addiction). Can someone help me understand why I feel this way? I'm feeling at the end of my rope with all of this. I just can't function like this. Is it the constant anxiety that's just wearing me down inside, is it the supplements, is it stress? Thanks for listening...I'm just feeling so sad today that I'm still dealing with all of this and feeling like a bad mother/wife/daughter/etc. Where did I go? __________________ Prescribed Prozac Weekly for several weeks back in October 2003 for postpartum "baby blues." Prozac caused severe panic and anxiety. Quit C/T in Oct '03 (advised by doctor). Suffered withdrawal and discontinuation syndrome for months and on/off until the present. Taking Fish Oil (1200mg EPA per day), Vitamin E, Mag Glycinate, Vitamin C w/echinacea, daily multivitamin "I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." - Maya Angelou

01-20-2007, 08:12 PM	#3
scotty Administrator & Advocate Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: new jersey Posts: 38,590	Re: I'm so tired... Exactly!!! You have every right to be tired..but this too shall pass!!! __________________ AKA Laurie "If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere." ~Frank A. Clark

01-20-2007, 10:42 PM	#4
Katesmom Moderator Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 13,706	Re: I'm so tired... I couldn't agree with Rita more! You have been living on sheer will and adrenaline for months, now you are just flat worn out from it. You have to understand that--mommy or not, wife or not--you deserve time for yourself. Every person needs it. That may mean that the list of chores doesn't get done today or even this week, but, I promise, your family WILL survive. I was basically on bedrest for my ENTIRE pregnancy. Granted, I didn't have any children yet (and this is why I won't be having any more), but my husband worked full time and did all the errands and did what little housework got down. The house basically just was let go. It was hard to watch, but I had to learn to let it go. After I had Kate, I felt like you do now, but because I was on paxil. I was very fatigued and had no motivation to do anything. I was a lump. We all survived it. Don't let yourself be so overwhelmed at the moment. It's okay to tread water sometimes. Laurie's right: this too SHALL pass. In the meantime, seriously consider a) taking some quiet time for yourself everyday. The PERFECT way to do this would be to work out right after hubby gets home from work or get up thirty minutes early. The exercise will also do your panic a WORLD of good. b) Read some books about anxiety. c) Look seriously into talk therapy. d) Don't be afraid to treat yourself sometimes, whether to a hershey bar or a pedicure or a silly book from the library. Your children learn how to treat others by how you not only treat them, but by how you treat yourself! __________________ Katesmom aka Kim started Paxil Oct. 2003 for PIH Paxil free since 19 Jul 2005 ". . .the cruelest lies are often told without a word. . .the kindest truths are often spoken, never heard." -- Ben Folds

01-21-2007, 03:47 PM	#5
mapleleafgirl25 Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 2,132	Re: I'm so tired... i was going to say..i didnt know what being tired was until i had London..lol..now i have her plus my own business..moms are always tired...try to take a break for yourself..like kim has suggested...sometimes..i even say "i am going to the bathroom" and i just spend time in there..plucking my eyebrows..ect..that gives me the 15min and then i feel better..!!! michele __________________ aka MICHELE My history with paxil is too long to write here..lol..but you can look at my old posts to see!

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