Rough Day

tootall · 02-24-2007, 03:51 PM

Today was a crappy day. It's my third day having gone down from 30mg to 28mg. Not too bad, just a few headaches. Well my fiance and I got in a little tiff. He said he's tired of me being sick all the time because I don't take care of myself and said he thinks I exaggerate and even make-up this paxil stuff. I told him how could a community of this many people be making this stuff up. I don't understand why he doesn't trust me enough to believe that I wouldn't use something like this whole messed up paxil situation to get to him. Why would he think that? I love him and know the paxil takes it's toll on everyone but this was a low blow. I feel like this is such a big step that i'm trying to get off it again, but he doesn't recognize my small steps. And I need his love and support now more then ever. And I just feel like such a failure. Like if I was a stronger person I would have been able to just quit the stuff.

Is there like a concise brochure I can give him with statistics? That or a club over the head?

Charlie · 02-24-2007, 04:14 PM

Hey tootall
I wish there were a handy brochure that could explain everything. Unfortunately this is much to complicated for a brochure. The one thing I can think of that might get his attention is this...... Heroin and Paxil are both phenylpiperdine compounds and for some heroin is easier to get off of.

He would benefit by reading and posting here if he will.

Katesmom · 02-24-2007, 05:44 PM

I've thought about brochures all the time, but so far I don't know of any.

Have him read here and decide if we sound like we're all just making it up. If he's still unsure, he can PM my hubby (katesdad). He's out of town for the weekend, but when he comes back, I'm sure he would be happy to answer questions for a significant other. If he's not happy to do it, I'll tell him he needs to 'get happy!' LOL

tootall · 02-24-2007, 05:59 PM

Thanks Katesmom, and for the info on the cold turkey. I remember at Christmas when I, at the advice of my doc, quit cold turkey and replaced with paxil. When I went back to my doc and said why the hell did you do this to me, she said that it wasn't really cold turkey because I was on prozac. My aunt is a psychologist though and she said she thought it sounded dumb. I hate that we trust these people so much and they continually let us down.

scotty · 02-24-2007, 08:41 PM

tootall, it takes more strength to wean!! It takes a huge amount of patience and tolerating symptom after symptom, AND it's the successful way to go. I hope your fiance comes here...we can hmmmmm, enlighten him!!!

Kristin · 02-25-2007, 12:54 AM

It's really hard for someone else to know what this experience is like. I managed to work and do a lot of my usual stuff during weaning but MAN it was bizarre a lot of the time! For people on the outside they just can't imagine. I think my daughter understood better than my husband.

How are you taking care of yourself? I am not siding with your fiance! Just wondering if you're trying to do too much (as I am often guilty of!) We believe you and are here to support you.

ratgirl · 02-25-2007, 07:20 PM

It makes it so much tougher when people closest to you are not supportive but it's horrible that he thinks you are making it up or exagerating. I know nothing about you, him or your relationship but it makes me nervous that during this tough time he is making things more difficult rather than helping you cope and get through.
I wish you the best and remember that there are many many many of us in the world going through the very same things. You are not alone and you are going to make it through.

02-24-2007, 03:51 PM	#1
tootall Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Maine Posts: 59	Rough Day Today was a crappy day. It's my third day having gone down from 30mg to 28mg. Not too bad, just a few headaches. Well my fiance and I got in a little tiff. He said he's tired of me being sick all the time because I don't take care of myself and said he thinks I exaggerate and even make-up this paxil stuff. I told him how could a community of this many people be making this stuff up. I don't understand why he doesn't trust me enough to believe that I wouldn't use something like this whole messed up paxil situation to get to him. Why would he think that? I love him and know the paxil takes it's toll on everyone but this was a low blow. I feel like this is such a big step that i'm trying to get off it again, but he doesn't recognize my small steps. And I need his love and support now more then ever. And I just feel like such a failure. Like if I was a stronger person I would have been able to just quit the stuff. Is there like a concise brochure I can give him with statistics? That or a club over the head? __________________ On 20mg, down from 30 but no more for awhile... too sick

02-24-2007, 04:14 PM	#2
Charlie Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 7,562	Re: Rough Day Hey tootall I wish there were a handy brochure that could explain everything. Unfortunately this is much to complicated for a brochure. The one thing I can think of that might get his attention is this...... Heroin and Paxil are both phenylpiperdine compounds and for some heroin is easier to get off of. He would benefit by reading and posting here if he will. __________________ The truth is the truth even if no one believes it, and a lie is a lie even if everyone believes it." Knowledge speaks ....... Wisdom listens Charlie www.ThePaxilProtest.com

02-24-2007, 05:44 PM	#3
Katesmom Moderator Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 13,706	Re: Rough Day I've thought about brochures all the time, but so far I don't know of any. Have him read here and decide if we sound like we're all just making it up. If he's still unsure, he can PM my hubby (katesdad). He's out of town for the weekend, but when he comes back, I'm sure he would be happy to answer questions for a significant other. If he's not happy to do it, I'll tell him he needs to 'get happy!' LOL __________________ Katesmom aka Kim started Paxil Oct. 2003 for PIH Paxil free since 19 Jul 2005 ". . .the cruelest lies are often told without a word. . .the kindest truths are often spoken, never heard." -- Ben Folds

02-24-2007, 05:59 PM	#4
tootall Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Maine Posts: 59	Re: Rough Day Thanks Katesmom, and for the info on the cold turkey. I remember at Christmas when I, at the advice of my doc, quit cold turkey and replaced with paxil. When I went back to my doc and said why the hell did you do this to me, she said that it wasn't really cold turkey because I was on prozac. My aunt is a psychologist though and she said she thought it sounded dumb. I hate that we trust these people so much and they continually let us down. __________________ On 20mg, down from 30 but no more for awhile... too sick

02-24-2007, 08:41 PM	#5
scotty Administrator & Advocate Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: new jersey Posts: 38,590	Re: Rough Day tootall, it takes more strength to wean!! It takes a huge amount of patience and tolerating symptom after symptom, AND it's the successful way to go. I hope your fiance comes here...we can hmmmmm, enlighten him!!! __________________ AKA Laurie "If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere." ~Frank A. Clark

02-25-2007, 12:54 AM	#6
Kristin Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 2,424	Re: Rough Day It's really hard for someone else to know what this experience is like. I managed to work and do a lot of my usual stuff during weaning but MAN it was bizarre a lot of the time! For people on the outside they just can't imagine. I think my daughter understood better than my husband. How are you taking care of yourself? I am not siding with your fiance! Just wondering if you're trying to do too much (as I am often guilty of!) We believe you and are here to support you. __________________ 6/03-9/05 Lex, Well, Zoloft 50 mg 8 wk taper failed 12/05 25 Zoloft resumed 2/7/06-11/23/06 tapered successfully to ZERO "The doctor of the future will give no medicine, but will interest his patients in the care of the human frame, in diet, and in the cause and prevention of disease." Thomas A. Edison

02-25-2007, 07:20 PM	#7
ratgirl Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Boston Posts: 76	Re: Rough Day It makes it so much tougher when people closest to you are not supportive but it's horrible that he thinks you are making it up or exagerating. I know nothing about you, him or your relationship but it makes me nervous that during this tough time he is making things more difficult rather than helping you cope and get through. I wish you the best and remember that there are many many many of us in the world going through the very same things. You are not alone and you are going to make it through. __________________ May you live all the days of your life. ~ Jonathan Swift Started at 20mgs 2/1/07 down to 12mg ~ sick from withdrawal. 2/25/07 down to 9mg ~ sick from withdrawal. 3/5/07 up to 10mgs ~ sick from withdrawal. 4/27/07 down to 8mgs and experiencing slight withdrawal. 7/22/07 ~ was going to go down to 3mgs but crashed and burned. went back to 5mgs. 6/16/08 ~ down to 3.4mgs and doing great. 8/4/08 ~ down to 2.8mgs and feeling perfect! 1/20/09 ~ down to 1.65mgs and feeling perfect still!

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