Withdrawal + Relationships= Drama (I need advice!)

Judy86 · 07-02-2007, 11:03 PM

Hi everyone
I appreciate all the advice I'm getting from all of you, it's been very helpful so far. I have yet another concern that I need help with. I am in a relationship of 1 year. We were rather steady before this Paxil crap but now we fight everyday.

I'm not sure whether it's me getting mad at things I would have never gotten mad at before, or if he is fed up with my mood swings but the point is that we are constantly fighting. When we fight I get filled with surges of absolute rage. I become physically violent, yell, swear, and threat suicide. I used to have a temper before this but it has escalated ten fold. I'm sad when I am without him, but it's geting to a point where I think he is harming my health and recovery more than helping. I've tried to explain to him what I'm going through and how he can avoid upsetting me, but I just don't think he gets it. Should I place myself in a break up situation right now, or just deal with it? Could this relationship be a set back on my recovery? What should I do?

Thanks everyone

Paxilalmostkilledme · 07-02-2007, 11:11 PM

I lost my relationship because of withdrawal...take care to realize that most of what you are going through in your relationship is amplified by the withdrawal...your lover is experiencing the worst you have to offer. You may want to show your lover this site so that he knows that it's isn't a "you and him" problem, but rather a withdrawal from paxil problem.

Best of Luck

Charlie · 07-02-2007, 11:12 PM

Judy86
Nobody can tell what you should do with your relationship. My guess is that right now there isn't much he could do that woud be right. That said, it's not you and it's not him it's the paxil withdrawal that's getting in the way.

I'd suggest he come here and take a look around, ask questions and learn as much about this as he can. It will make it easier to deal with.

Johnnny off Paxil · 07-03-2007, 12:32 AM

Withdrawal is hell for anyone... I would try to explain carefully what is happening to you and why. Yes the rage and anger can get out of hand, especially of you think he doesn't care. I would suggest you look for professional support, from a psychologist or therapist who doesn't push drugs as a means of therapy. You and your boyfriend might have to take a break from each other until this thing heals up.

Lastly its very difficult to get others to understand what your going through unless they have experienced it themselves...so I wouldn't try so hard.

Try to make some breathing room for both you and your boyfriend..compassion is the word here. Treat yourself with care and loving kindness..

Regards, Johnny

Amaya's Nana · 07-03-2007, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Judy86

Hi everyone
I appreciate all the advice I'm getting from all of you, it's been very helpful so far. I have yet another concern that I need help with. I am in a relationship of 1 year. We were rather steady before this Paxil crap but now we fight everyday.

I'm not sure whether it's me getting mad at things I would have never gotten mad at before, or if he is fed up with my mood swings but the point is that we are constantly fighting. When we fight I get filled with surges of absolute rage. I become physically violent, yell, swear, and threat suicide. I used to have a temper before this but it has escalated ten fold. I'm sad when I am without him, but it's geting to a point where I think he is harming my health and recovery more than helping. I've tried to explain to him what I'm going through and how he can avoid upsetting me, but I just don't think he gets it. Should I place myself in a break up situation right now, or just deal with it? Could this relationship be a set back on my recovery? What should I do?

Thanks everyone

I could've written your post a year ago.......oh wait....I did write your post a year ago!!!!! LOL All kidding aside, Paxil withdrawal is hell on relationships. Period!!!!! Some survive and some don't. If you really love each other and are committed to staying together, I suggest he read on this site about what happens to a person when they withdraw from these kinds of medicines so he can understand what you're going through. It is not YOU!!! It is not HIM!!!! It is withdrawal. Please try not to lay guilt on yourself or on him. If you need to take a break and have some alone time to just focus and regroup, I suggest you do that.....give each other a little space right now knowing that things will get better.....it just takes time.

CELESTEP · 07-03-2007, 02:04 PM

You are in a very delicate state right now. W/D is very, very hard. And yes agitatio is part of it. It is messing with your mood and outlook and perception. Can you explain this to your partner and ask for what you need right now. Understanding and someone to hold your hand?

07-02-2007, 11:03 PM	#1
Judy86 Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 105	Withdrawal + Relationships= Drama (I need advice!) Hi everyone I appreciate all the advice I'm getting from all of you, it's been very helpful so far. I have yet another concern that I need help with. I am in a relationship of 1 year. We were rather steady before this Paxil crap but now we fight everyday.I'm not sure whether it's me getting mad at things I would have never gotten mad at before, or if he is fed up with my mood swings but the point is that we are constantly fighting. When we fight I get filled with surges of absolute rage. I become physically violent, yell, swear, and threat suicide. I used to have a temper before this but it has escalated ten fold. I'm sad when I am without him, but it's geting to a point where I think he is harming my health and recovery more than helping. I've tried to explain to him what I'm going through and how he can avoid upsetting me, but I just don't think he gets it. Should I place myself in a break up situation right now, or just deal with it? Could this relationship be a set back on my recovery? What should I do? Thanks everyone __________________ Paxil 10mg for panic attack (April 20th 2007) Off of Paxil COLD TURKEY (May 23rd 2007) (due to an adverse reaction: severe derealization, hallucinations & extreme fatigue) TWO YEARS PAXIL FREE ...didn't even notice the 2 year date til today (Oct.29.09) thats how much ive moved on from this experience Currently: -in Anger Management (Oct. 2009) -taking Omega 3 & Magnesium -yoga & other exercise (jogging) *Finished CBT

07-02-2007, 11:11 PM	#2
Paxilalmostkilledme Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Montreal, QC Vancouver, BC Posts: 625	Re: Withdrawal + Relationships= Drama (I need advice!) I lost my relationship because of withdrawal...take care to realize that most of what you are going through in your relationship is amplified by the withdrawal...your lover is experiencing the worst you have to offer. You may want to show your lover this site so that he knows that it's isn't a "you and him" problem, but rather a withdrawal from paxil problem. Best of Luck __________________ Paxil - 2000-2006 40mgs, weight gain of 50 pounds tapered for one month as I had to get off due to behavior issues. late Dec 2006....last paxil 3 months of major w/d. supplements: b-complex, mags, fish oil "Your Mileage WILL Vary" should be stamped across every drug dispensed. Your doc shouldn't poo-poo your reaction. You live inside your body. You know what's happening in there.

07-02-2007, 11:12 PM	#3
Charlie Join Date: Nov 2005 Posts: 7,562	Re: Withdrawal + Relationships= Drama (I need advice!) Judy86 Nobody can tell what you should do with your relationship. My guess is that right now there isn't much he could do that woud be right. That said, it's not you and it's not him it's the paxil withdrawal that's getting in the way. I'd suggest he come here and take a look around, ask questions and learn as much about this as he can. It will make it easier to deal with. __________________ The truth is the truth even if no one believes it, and a lie is a lie even if everyone believes it." Knowledge speaks ....... Wisdom listens Charlie www.ThePaxilProtest.com

07-03-2007, 12:32 AM	#4
Johnnny off Paxil Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Persona Non Grata... I am No Expert on Nothing Posts: 2,894	Re: Withdrawal + Relationships= Drama (I need advice!) Withdrawal is hell for anyone... I would try to explain carefully what is happening to you and why. Yes the rage and anger can get out of hand, especially of you think he doesn't care. I would suggest you look for professional support, from a psychologist or therapist who doesn't push drugs as a means of therapy. You and your boyfriend might have to take a break from each other until this thing heals up. Lastly its very difficult to get others to understand what your going through unless they have experienced it themselves...so I wouldn't try so hard. Try to make some breathing room for both you and your boyfriend..compassion is the word here. Treat yourself with care and loving kindness.. Regards, Johnny

07-03-2007, 02:04 PM	#6
CELESTEP Banned Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Jupiter - FL Posts: 597	Re: Withdrawal + Relationships= Drama (I need advice!) You are in a very delicate state right now. W/D is very, very hard. And yes agitatio is part of it. It is messing with your mood and outlook and perception. Can you explain this to your partner and ask for what you need right now. Understanding and someone to hold your hand?

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