Welcome Gibby!

imokay · 09-28-2007, 09:00 AM

Welcome to the board Gibby! Why dont you tell us a little bit about yourself

Gibby · 09-28-2007, 10:09 AM

Okay, I'm new to this site but I have got to get help on what to do. My husband and I have been married for 21 years. He had a terrible childhood and turned out to be a successful man. I think his childhood caused him to be depressed all the time, it wasn't so bad that he couldn't overcome it but 2 years ago his brother committed suicide and I think he dwelled on that because of the guilt suicide brings to family members. He got to where he would blow up at any thing me or my daughter would say and then he got to the point where he was afraid he was going to blow up on someone at work. He has a very stressfull job and he has always been highly respected at work and in his hometown. He did not want to blow up on anyone because that is unlike him. He is a very private person other than to me and my daughter, we are the only ones that really know him. He just thought he had went as far as he could go so he got an appointment with the Dr. and she gave him the Paxil. He started taking it in April of 07 and was great the first couple of months, and then....... in the last couple of months he has changed. As I said earlier we have been married for 21 years and we have had a great relationship, to be honest we have always been the envy of others in our town because of our relationship. We have been best friends for over 20 years now and never have we had a problem that we couldn't handle and it was never a big problem anyway. We have a daughter who is 18 years old and going to college. We do not have financial problems or anything of that sort, I always thought we had the perfect marriage. Now... He has told me that he loves me but he wants to start doing things for himself more, he wants to live life for him. He doesn't enjoy being with our freinds anymore. He says he doesn't have anything in common with anyone around him anymore. The only time he seems to be happy is when he is at work and with some of his co-workers. He likes to hang out with them and do things with them. He does on occassions invite me to go along, but I don't know these people and we have nothing in common and then I think maybe I'm being selfish but I also know that I've not changed he has. He has always been compassionate and very loving, that is gone. Every now and then, he will be himself but only for a short time and then bam back on the roller coaster we go. My birthday was a couple of weeks ago and he did get me a gift but no card, which is so unlike him, I have gotten a card and a cake for 21 years from him and I finally asked him about it. He said he was sorry he just screwed up coz he was busy and just couldn't find time to get me one. That is so unlike him. He sometimes just acts like he doesn't care at all about me and it makes me feel like I'm holding him back from things he wants to do that he normally wouldn't want to do. We have always done everything together and I mean everything. I have been hurt more in the last couple of months than I have in the whole 21 years of our marriage. I have cried myself to sleep so many nights and he will just roll over and go to sleep like nothings wrong. Now.... my daughter talked to him the other night and asked him to please get of the Paxil, he told her he was going to start taking only half of the pill. That was two days ago, I've looked in his pill bottle and that is what he's doing. This morning he woke up and said he was having chills but only in his legs. I told him I knew that he was trying to cut back on the Paxil and I didn't want him to do that without talking to the DR. first. He is hardheaded and says he thinks he can do it. I also told him I didn't want him to do it and then something happen and my daughter have to live with that the rest of her life.
Just wanted to share this and get some help.
Thanks

rdjanis · 09-28-2007, 10:13 AM

Welcome to paxilprogress!! You will know from reading her cutting the pill in half is too big a jump. Can you lead your husband here? It would help him to read others experiences so he can better understand what he is feeling, and can interact with others in the process of withdrawal.

Gibby · 09-28-2007, 10:28 AM

Not sure if he will come here or not? I was really wanting to know if the way he has been acting is because of the Paxil because it is all so unlike him.

rdjanis · 09-28-2007, 10:31 AM

Yep, it's because of paxil. Saying that, go to our faq page and print some stuff off for him to read. You can download a copy of the Paxil Withdraw Guide for free.

Gibby · 09-28-2007, 10:49 AM

How do I get to the faq page, i'm not seeing it anywhere?
Thanks

rdjanis · 09-28-2007, 11:22 AM

Here's the link:

http://www.paxilprogress.org/forums/...aysprune=&f=14

Gibby · 09-28-2007, 12:51 PM

Thanks,
I will try printing some of the stuff off and maybe he will read it. Thank you so much.

Homerbcool · 09-28-2007, 01:01 PM

Absolutely ahve him come here...Validation will make him understand that all of these thigns are due to paxhell....we know ..we have been there.

mapleleafgirl25 · 09-28-2007, 02:00 PM

Paxil definatly changes people..it makes them not care about the things they should care about ect...it takes away your real emotions!! and the list goes on!!!

michele

09-28-2007, 09:00 AM	#1
imokay Sometimes ya just gotta say F$%^ YOU! Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 6,892	Welcome Gibby! Welcome to the board Gibby! Why dont you tell us a little bit about yourself __________________ CALLY PAXIL FREE October 7, 2009

09-28-2007, 10:09 AM	#2
Gibby Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Southern Illinois Posts: 1,145	Re: Welcome Gibby! Okay, I'm new to this site but I have got to get help on what to do. My husband and I have been married for 21 years. He had a terrible childhood and turned out to be a successful man. I think his childhood caused him to be depressed all the time, it wasn't so bad that he couldn't overcome it but 2 years ago his brother committed suicide and I think he dwelled on that because of the guilt suicide brings to family members. He got to where he would blow up at any thing me or my daughter would say and then he got to the point where he was afraid he was going to blow up on someone at work. He has a very stressfull job and he has always been highly respected at work and in his hometown. He did not want to blow up on anyone because that is unlike him. He is a very private person other than to me and my daughter, we are the only ones that really know him. He just thought he had went as far as he could go so he got an appointment with the Dr. and she gave him the Paxil. He started taking it in April of 07 and was great the first couple of months, and then....... in the last couple of months he has changed. As I said earlier we have been married for 21 years and we have had a great relationship, to be honest we have always been the envy of others in our town because of our relationship. We have been best friends for over 20 years now and never have we had a problem that we couldn't handle and it was never a big problem anyway. We have a daughter who is 18 years old and going to college. We do not have financial problems or anything of that sort, I always thought we had the perfect marriage. Now... He has told me that he loves me but he wants to start doing things for himself more, he wants to live life for him. He doesn't enjoy being with our freinds anymore. He says he doesn't have anything in common with anyone around him anymore. The only time he seems to be happy is when he is at work and with some of his co-workers. He likes to hang out with them and do things with them. He does on occassions invite me to go along, but I don't know these people and we have nothing in common and then I think maybe I'm being selfish but I also know that I've not changed he has. He has always been compassionate and very loving, that is gone. Every now and then, he will be himself but only for a short time and then bam back on the roller coaster we go. My birthday was a couple of weeks ago and he did get me a gift but no card, which is so unlike him, I have gotten a card and a cake for 21 years from him and I finally asked him about it. He said he was sorry he just screwed up coz he was busy and just couldn't find time to get me one. That is so unlike him. He sometimes just acts like he doesn't care at all about me and it makes me feel like I'm holding him back from things he wants to do that he normally wouldn't want to do. We have always done everything together and I mean everything. I have been hurt more in the last couple of months than I have in the whole 21 years of our marriage. I have cried myself to sleep so many nights and he will just roll over and go to sleep like nothings wrong. Now.... my daughter talked to him the other night and asked him to please get of the Paxil, he told her he was going to start taking only half of the pill. That was two days ago, I've looked in his pill bottle and that is what he's doing. This morning he woke up and said he was having chills but only in his legs. I told him I knew that he was trying to cut back on the Paxil and I didn't want him to do that without talking to the DR. first. He is hardheaded and says he thinks he can do it. I also told him I didn't want him to do it and then something happen and my daughter have to live with that the rest of her life. Just wanted to share this and get some help. Thanks

09-28-2007, 10:13 AM	#3
rdjanis "has a lavender scented keyboard" Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Ontario Posts: 22,238	Re: Welcome Gibby! Welcome to paxilprogress!! You will know from reading her cutting the pill in half is too big a jump. Can you lead your husband here? It would help him to read others experiences so he can better understand what he is feeling, and can interact with others in the process of withdrawal. __________________ Rita

09-28-2007, 10:28 AM	#4
Gibby Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Southern Illinois Posts: 1,145	Re: Welcome Gibby! Not sure if he will come here or not? I was really wanting to know if the way he has been acting is because of the Paxil because it is all so unlike him.

09-28-2007, 10:31 AM	#5
rdjanis "has a lavender scented keyboard" Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Ontario Posts: 22,238	Re: Welcome Gibby! Yep, it's because of paxil. Saying that, go to our faq page and print some stuff off for him to read. You can download a copy of the Paxil Withdraw Guide for free. __________________ Rita

09-28-2007, 10:49 AM	#6
Gibby Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Southern Illinois Posts: 1,145	Re: Welcome Gibby! How do I get to the faq page, i'm not seeing it anywhere? Thanks

09-28-2007, 11:22 AM	#7
rdjanis "has a lavender scented keyboard" Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Ontario Posts: 22,238	Re: Welcome Gibby! Here's the link: http://www.paxilprogress.org/forums/...aysprune=&f=14 __________________ Rita

09-28-2007, 12:51 PM	#8
Gibby Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Southern Illinois Posts: 1,145	Re: Welcome Gibby! Thanks, I will try printing some of the stuff off and maybe he will read it. Thank you so much.

09-28-2007, 01:01 PM	#9
Homerbcool "colors outside the lines" Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 15,949	Re: Welcome Gibby! Absolutely ahve him come here...Validation will make him understand that all of these thigns are due to paxhell....we know ..we have been there. __________________ That's one of the curses of anxiety--we make possibilities into certainties.....Tim

09-28-2007, 02:00 PM	#10
mapleleafgirl25 Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Vancouver, Canada Posts: 2,132	Re: Welcome Gibby! Paxil definatly changes people..it makes them not care about the things they should care about ect...it takes away your real emotions!! and the list goes on!!! michele __________________ aka MICHELE My history with paxil is too long to write here..lol..but you can look at my old posts to see!

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