will time erase bad memories?

[sab2012]

All,

I believe i am 70-80% cured,but i still have haunting memories.
Its been around 3 months and i have started feeling life,working on my weight gain etc..
But the motivation is not back and i still look like some one shaken up from inside.
I am planning to enroll into gym with a personal trainer.

Some people have told me,that i am able to work,travel,laugh etc and i should be happy with my recovery and not complain for left over symptoms.

Please explain me what is recovery in our case?

[LCrawford67]

I'm not sure what you mean by "what is recovery?" But, if you're feeling as good as you say, I don't think you can count bad memories as a w/d symptom.

Bad memories happen in all of us and you can't erase them. You can take steps not dwell on them and they will become more distant as time goes on.

[sab2012]

Hi Lc,

Its true,i dont have any withdrawal symptoms..

But now that i am trying to rebuild my life,i am a cautious person who is not confident and is unable to make decisions.
I sometimes think about the phase and the suffering...and how powerless a human beign is..

[cipher0413]

Recovery... hard to define in our case, right?

We, as in we people in withdrawal.. all have different expectations, and differences in opinion... differences in goals and differences in what we plan to achieve, and different priorities... For some, it's more about gaining our emotions back, for some, to gain our cognition and memory back, for some it's most important to gain our sexual desires/performance back, for some it's about just simply not having any more physical symptoms... So as much as I understand the people who tell you that you should stop complaining and focus on the positives, as much as I understand where they are coming from, I also think you are allowed to want to regain/recover more of what you used to be. We're all in a way victims here and we can't say whose better off than others... maybe we can but,,, it doesn't mean it's wrong for some of us to expect more recovery from where we are now. Because none of us will never be exactly the same as who we were before, and it's hard as hell to accept that and move on... it would be so if this kind of thing happened to anyone in this world. And also, your complaints, I don't think it's necessarily a reflection of the kind of attitude we have (optimistic or pessimistic) but more a reflection in the differences in expectations. We compare ourselves when we're not in withdrawal, in terms of money, happiness, success etc, and we still sort of compare ourselves the amount of recovery we gain during withdrawal... but everyone has such different expectations of what they want and need. Right?

[sab2012]

Originally Posted by cipher0413

Recovery... hard to define in our case, right?

We, as in we people in withdrawal.. all have different expectations, and differences in opinion... differences in goals and differences in what we plan to achieve, and different priorities... For some, it's more about gaining our emotions back, for some, to gain our cognition and memory back, for some it's most important to gain our sexual desires/performance back, for some it's about just simply not having any more physical symptoms... So as much as I understand the people who tell you that you should stop complaining and focus on the positives, as much as I understand where they are coming from, I also think you are allowed to want to regain/recover more of what you used to be. We're all in a way victims here and we can't say whose better off than others... maybe we can but,,, it doesn't mean it's wrong for some of us to expect more recovery from where we are now. Because none of us will never be exactly the same as who we were before, and it's hard as hell to accept that and move on... it would be so if this kind of thing happened to anyone in this world. And also, your complaints, I don't think it's necessarily a reflection of the kind of attitude we have (optimistic or pessimistic) but more a reflection in the differences in expectations. We compare ourselves when we're not in withdrawal, in terms of money, happiness, success etc, and we still sort of compare ourselves the amount of recovery we gain during withdrawal... but everyone has such different expectations of what they want and need. Right?

Cipher,that para you wrote says it all...Thanks:-)
You showed me the reality.

[sab2012]

But then,i tend to believe may be positive attitude will eventually get me back the person i was...

Lance armstrong,he fought cancer and won tour de france..he made his body very very strong.

May be we can do the same mentally and become wiser and achieve even more in life.

[aberdeen]

True Cipher, but I do think we can recover 100%, we may be different people, but it won't be because we have lingering brain damage. I don't belive that. So for me, it's not hard to accept I will a "different" person when this is over, I'm a new person each day. It would be very hard to accept I will always be a brain damaged person though...which I don't think will happen.

[Songbird]

Memories don't get erased, but in time they can fade somewhat and feel less powerful. I think it is okay to go through them now and then as I think it can help the brain to process what has happened to us, but it is not healthy to keep thinking about it over and over and reliving traumatic feelings. If it has only been three months, don't jump to any conclusions - I think you will likely get more recovery in time.

[cipher0413]

Originally Posted by aberdeen

True Cipher, but I do think we can recover 100%, we may be different people, but it won't be because we have lingering brain damage. I don't belive that. So for me, it's not hard to accept I will a "different" person when this is over, I'm a new person each day. It would be very hard to accept I will always be a brain damaged person though...which I don't think will happen.

Hi aberdeen... I wish I can believe in the same thing as you do. I understand what you're saying, that there's a difference feeling that you're changed because everyone changes, that's what happens naturally, and to feel you are changed because you're brain damaged... Yup there's a huge difference to the way you look at it. I think for me it's a little bit of both you know? I know even if I hadn't took an ad my whole life, I would've changed for better or worse, but also, the ad put in my body, also is responsible for the change, a change in a totally different dimension from a change that occurs naturally in human beings... Anyways, I won't know until it's all over... and I do hope that we can pull through this whole damn thing that's happened... but that's all I can do being the kind of person that I am maybe,,, hope and wait, but not believe.